I guess you could call me lucky. Of all of life’s challenges, I’ve been spared the pain of infidelity. But I’ve seen plenty of people I know and love have to deal with it. Getting to a place of healing is difficult for many, whether you’re the cheater or the cheated. Sharing stories, ideas and perspectives helps to promote that healing. So share a comment or a story, or let’s do a podcast. You never know who might need to hear what you have to say. Maybe that person is you. Writing it down and sharing might be just the thing you need to put that event in your rearview mirror. Put it out, and you’ll get back. I promise. ❤️ xo Karm
Talking points for discussion, choose as few or as many as you’d like
Are you the Cheater or Cheated?
How did it affect you?
Did it affect others in your life?
How did you cope with it?
Did you stay in or leave the relationship? Why?
Looking back, what factors contributed to the cheating?
What would you do differently in that situation today?
What did you learn about yourself?
Did you witness someone you care about deal with infidelity? How did they handle it?
Do you have one piece of advice to share with others?
Bryan Reeves says “Choose her every day, or leave her.” Seems that might solve many problems and would certainly go both ways. Every woman wants to be chosen. If you’re not willing to work at the relationship – and it is work, however enjoyable – you can’t expect it to thrive. And failure to thrive is what drives toward infidelity. Love is a verb.
Relationships absolutely are work. I like your quote from Bryan Reeves about choosing. We were taught to “choose love” at a marriage retreat years ago, whenever there is conflict. Easy to say, not so easy to do all the time. And to your point about willingness to work. it is even more difficult when just one is choosing to love, but not the other. I just recorded a podcast episode on infidelity, so more discussion on this coming. Thank you for sharing. xo Karm